‘If people rely on digital intimacy, they will miss the messiness and the ups and downs of face-to-face sex. ‘Physical connection is hugely important to everyone for social development and personal wellbeing,’ Neil explains. While we might find the idea of one-night stands off-putting now, soon we’ll miss them dearly. Well, says, Neil Wilkie, a relationship expert, psychotherapist, and creator of The Relationship Paradigm, the truth is that we do miss out on something special when everything happens online. So why bother with actually getting physical? Many of the emotional reasons for engaging in casual sex likely can be achieved by virtual sex or flirting over Zoom. The way we fulfill our needs has changed (Picture: Getty Images) Think about it this way: what need does a one-night stand fulfil? Has the pandemic introduced you to a better or easier way to tick that desire off? ‘For some, perhaps the digital interaction gives them as much ‘intimacy’ as they need (and can also guard them from too much emotional hurt), and they can keep the persona that they create online bracketed off, rather than allowing it to become part of their everyday life.’ ‘We know that people can project a very different personality when they are behind a keyboard. ‘I wonder if digital intimacy may become the new one-night stand or the new no-strings-attached,’ she tells .uk.
Plenty Of Fish reckons that the reason for the potential death of the one-night stand is because people have become used to getting sexually intimate virtually, rather than IRL, and that rather than a traditional one-night stand with someone we’ve just met out and about, we’re more likely to have a sexy video chat, phone call, or texting session instead.Īdd to that our renewed nerves around in-person socialising, and fresh fears around hygiene and spreading illness, and it makes sense that one-night stands might not seem so appealing.īut has the one-night stand really been killed off forever? Or will it go through a post-lockdown slump, only to be followed by a roaring twenties style reboot?Ĭounselling Directory member Beverley Blackman believes that our increasingly online lifestyles may mean we simply have no need for the old-school one-night stand – and that we might view digital connection as a superior replacement.
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